We've been caught between a rock and a hard place when it comes to romance lately. The month of February and all of the hearts and cupids everywhere threw me into sort of a romance tizzy. We're still trying to figure things out, but I thought I'd take this chance to let the boys in on some things.
Gentlemen: Your wife truly appreciates everything you do for her through working hard at your job and bringin' home the bacon. Unfortunately, she needs more than that. Yes, we are that needy. Understand that although you might not be a romantic yourself, there is some part (big or small) of your wife that craves romance. Because the love a husband and a wife share is supposed to be an unselfish love, do something romantic. Do anything romantic. She doesn't need 12 million roses filling the house; she just needs something every once in a while.
Has she been asking to go ice skating for the past three winters? Then sew a sequined leotard and get on that ice! Does she always suggest going out for ice cream? Actually agree with her and hop in the car. Do you know she's having a stressful day and can't seem to even make it through preparing dinner? Walk into that kitchen, grab the chicken, and cook it for her (Lyndon did that yesterday...twas wonderful). Is she feeling a little under the weather? Make her lunch and watch an episode of Lost (we did that today). It doesn't take much, but a romantic gesture of some kind will go a long way.
Maybe you were romantic while you were dating because you had woo her. Now you don't think you have to be romantic because you're married. Don't romance her to win her heart; you have it. Romance your wife because she's your wife. You might not be a Fabio, and that's okay. She didn't marry Fabio; she married you.
Amen friend :) Very wise words here from a wonderful woman! :)
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